Those Red Pumps May Have To Wait
By Mary Delia Eatmon
So what if you can’t keep up with the latest dress styles or wear those red bottom shoes that seem to keep calling your name. Right now your main focus is to remember that this too shall pass. This time with your children is precious and it should be used wisely to pour in some much-needed knowledge into your children. Before you know it, time will have passed and you will be able to look back and be glad that you made these little sacrifices. The memories that you are making now will allow you to learn about yourself as you teach them about life and how they will fit in it. Think about it for a moment, this is the time that you will tap into your own creativity while demonstrating the different good and bad things life has to offer. For now, just enjoy each moment you have because time is fleeting. It’s the simple things that you manage that will make you who you are. You gain strength, confidence, and wisdom by what you are doing now in your life. So, while you are raising you babies raise the inner you. Save yourself from the unnecessary stress that presents itself on a daily basis and stop looking at the mother down the street that seems to have it all.
As a young mother of 8, I learned quickly to accept the role of motherhood. And over the past 70 years I’ve witnessed, as well as experienced first hand, that we innately have the ability to nurture. But on the other hand, to be a mother (to birth, raise, and display appropriate affection) it is a learned process. Now, if you are like I was, and started off having several babies early, you’ll need to pull on a little hidden trait called patience: and you will have to practice it often. Coupled with persistence you will get the hang of this thing called motherhood. Things will fall into place over time as you naturally do what needs to be done. In this fast pace of today’s living, before you know it, you’ll turn around and your little ones will be all grown up and out the door.
We have all heard of the empty nest syndrome. The repercussions are real and when it happens it’s a real shocker. So, it would behoove all young mothers to value this time and make the sacrifice of spending as much time as possible with your loved ones while they are young and yours. It will really pay off in the long run. I can safely say this, don’t worry they will let you know later if you’ve done a good job or not . Make life, for yourself, as enjoyable as possible. When you’ve secured your own foundation, your children will benefit.
Here’s a little tidbit of info that supports the benefits of being a great mom. Back in the early 1900’s a woman named Anna M. Jarvis, out of Grafton West, Virginia, honored her mother Ann Reeves Jarvis’ who died May 2, 1905 by celebrating mothers everywhere. Anna continued the task that her mother started and successfully marked the 2nd Sunday in May of 1908 as Mother’s Day at Andrew’s Church in Philadelphia. Today, we all are acknowledged and celebrated because of one woman’s child decision to remember her loving mother.
When Ann originally drafted this task she highlighted the virtues of what a good mother is by pointing out that such a woman is a blessing and her love is never exhausted; She makes endless sacrifices no matter what the obstacles are; She works tirelessly to take care of her children and her home; and she loves deeply. Mothers know the personality of each of her children and generally do not compare one child against the other. She simply loves each child for who they are.
There are women who may not be a biological mother; but instead they were thrust into the role of motherhood. There may be adopted mothers, grandmothers, or stepmothers with the same instinct and all the attributes of a biological mother. If you are a mother good or bad you must remember that it’s a learned process. But if you are in need of a mother, you don’t always have to look far. These women are usually right by your side. Who knows…she may even be your teacher. Granted there are a lot of rotten mothers out there; but if given the chance, along with their own desire, they too can become sweet.
It takes love; passion; patience; a lot of sacrifices; as well as wisdom to accept what your role is as a mother. Through the grace of God every woman bearing a child can rejoice in the fact that the base of her heart is a manifestation of divine mercy. It is a privilege to be able to produce a child for the glory of God.
Mary Delia Eatmon, 84yr.
Author of Nine Houses